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Anger can be debilitating for your life, it can destroy friendships, careers and, worst of all, families. Although it is normal to feel annoyed at times - it is the explosion of repressed anger which does so much harm. This sort of anger is often followed by remorse, but then it is too late, especially if excessive anger has caused you to act violently and use physical or verbal abuse.
Anger is actually a natural, adaptive response to threats. When you get angry, your heart rate and blood pressure go up, as do the levels of your energy hormones, adrenaline, and noradrenaline. So you can imagine, people who get angered easily are prone to high blood pressure and heart problems.
Rage can seem to be caused by external events; you could feel anger at a specific person (such as a co-worker or supervisor) or event (a traffic jam, a cancelled flight), or your anger could be caused by worrying or brooding about your personal problems.
In reality uncontrolled anger is usually caused by memories (whether consciously recalled or not) of traumatic events or repeating behaviour seen in the past.
The three main approaches are expressing, suppressing, and calming.
Expressing your angry feelings in an assertive—not aggressive—manner is the healthiest way to express anger. To do this, you have to learn how to make clear what your needs are, and how to get them met, without hurting others. Being assertive doesn't mean being pushy or demanding; it means being respectful of yourself and others.
Anger can be suppressed, and then converted or redirected. This happens when you hold in your anger, stop thinking about it, and focus on something positive. The aim is to inhibit or suppress your anger and convert it into more constructive behaviour. The danger in this type of response is that if it isn't allowed outward expression, your anger can turn inward—on yourself. Anger turned inward may cause hypertension, high blood pressure, digestive problems or depression. A good way to convert this type of energy is in active sport.
Pent-up anger can create other problems such as passive-aggressive behaviour (getting back at people indirectly, without telling them why, rather than confronting them head-on) or a personality that seems perpetually cynical and hostile or negative and pessimistic. Constantly putting others down, criticizing everything and making cynical comments are all effects of not learning how to constructively express anger.
Finally, you can calm down inside. This means not just controlling your outward behaviour, but also controlling your internal responses, taking steps to lower your heart rate, calm yourself down, and let the feelings subside.
Some people seem to have a low tolerance of frustration. This could be genetic, but is likely to be learned behaviour. In a family where emotional feelings are not discussed it is difficult to learn how to deal with them. Anger is generally considered a negative emotion so we're taught that it's all right to express anxiety, depression, or other emotions but not to express anger. As a result, we don't learn how to handle it or channel it constructively.
It is often suggested that you should ‘breathe deeply and count to ten’ when you are starting to get annoyed, but many sufferers from extreme rage won’t be able to get their brain in gear to think of that until after their outburst - you are in a trance and like hypnosis you are in direct communication with your subconscious – the best way of dealing with anger at this level then, is to use trance to deconstruct your reactions. The first step to solving anger issues is identifying the problem. Anger isn’t caused by other people but by your reaction to them.
Anger Management
Anger is often caused by feelings of low self esteem and confidence using hypnosis we can improve both of these. We can also, by speaking directly to the subconscious, find out what the real issues behind the fury are, which could be feelings of lack of control over ones life or environment, feelings of underachievement, not being able to express ones emotions etc. which can then be transformed. Hypnosis can deal with the triggers that cause anger and will also teach relaxation and you can use self-hypnosis to amplify this so that you are able to remain calm in situations where you would previously lose control.
Hypnotherapy and Anger
Often anger can be caused by a repetitive thoughts or feelings such as ‘I am not good enough’ or ‘They are out to get me’. These ‘mantras’ will have there beginnings in your past and will be destructive to other parts of your life too. With regression we can take you back to the source of these thoughts and, using psychodrama and body memory, release the pent up emotions.
Anger & Regression Therapy
Don’t let anger destroy your relationships or your life - there is a solution
At the core of all anger is a need that is not being fulfilled.
Marshall B. Rosenberg